personallydfk: April 2012

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Of Change, Temperament and Other manipulations

I usually get in trouble when I talk to people about change, especially when the talk is about how people have changed. See, I do not believe it is possible for a person to change at all. Not even a single bit, at least not there where it matters. Sure, one can have a life changing experience or deep insights, but that does not necessary mean he has changed along with it, too. His life has, the circumstances have, he knows something more about himself, so he needs to adjust and accumulate new behavioral patterns. Learn and adopt; recognize and control; experience and manage. This is how it works. So, there is no sugar coating the subject with me, when my friend tells me she is getting back with her ex-boyfriend, because he supposedly has changed.

Of interpretations, reality and other cracks in human communication

Things happen, I say. Not able to say who has caused them, because that would start out as a looking-for-a-reason, but inevitably end up in finger pointing. I say, Life happens. I say that a lot, not yet sure how I feel about it, though. That covers my view on everything, regardless. It must show in my own interpretations of reality, then. As a person of a restless eye and mind, for that matter, I am intrigued by the simplest things that happen around me and if I have the photo with me, I take pictures of the weirdest things. Lately, majority of those are cracks in the roads I am walking. There is just something about their unpredictable, man-influence-free nature that seduces me. Yet, they all resemble each other, where ever I take them. May it be Krakow, Reykjavik, Berlin, Stockholm, Malta, Porto, Barcelona or Kobarid. However, when I take pictures of moments that are not only cracks in the asphalt, I am not looking for any kind of reasoning as why it happened or what it represents. On the opposite, I take them the way they are and there is always a certain thought they provoked, a memory or look-a-like resemblance. I found out, the image is always embedded in a context. The kind that is taken for granted or we are just used to see them together supporting each other. There is a natural go-along relation between them. I am all about context and a message it supports, that is why I like to change it, twist it or simply turn it upside down. By that, the original message gets stronger, clearer or it creates a new meaning completely. But then it does not matter, if I emphasize or diminish it. I am not interested in that. Nor am I interested in interpretations people make, because they, too, happen anyways. People will always try to grasp the thought behind them and assume conclusions. That is a magic side of Reality I call human state of mind.

Now, interpretation of reality is a topic worth writing about. Or should I say misinterpretations based on assumption to understand.

Of letting go, gravity and other suicidal attepmts

I never completely understood the whole “let go” concept! People use it as a solution to every uncomfortable situation. I understand its use when one is faced with fear of doing something for the first time or any kind of reservation for that matter. I understand and practice it when it comes to never ceasing rumble of the same thought over and over again. Hell, I recommend it. Rumble can make you go insane. I support the letting go of attachment to things, which is the one of the bases of Four Noble Truths in Buddhism. Letting go is a Noble thing to do in order for one to reach a peaceful mind. And that is, we must agree, something everybody wants. But I have a hard time accepting it when it comes to situations that need some attention. When there are resolutions to be made and discussions to be had in order to come to an understanding of the given situation. And there is precisely where people usually use its powerful idea and my concerns begin.

I wonder how many times this philosophy is being used to avoid dealing with things, to take an honest look on the situation. How many times do we try to shut our eyes not to see the reality, not to accept the possibility that it actually sucks. Or that nothing good can come out of it. No matter how true it is, that knowing the future is not in our hands, there is inevitable fact of intuition, based on past experiences, that patiently and persistently whispers to our ears we should deal with it and then actually let it go. Not the thinking about it, but the situation altogether. We only apply the “let go” when it comes to thinking and building up thought patterns that cause emotional states like fear, doubt, concern, shame and regret. What if we applied it to the situation per se! What about letting go of the action; letting go of the need to be in it? To let hope go.

Of internet connection, blog posting and other members of the Simpson Family

No internet connection is a lame excuse for neglecting blog posting.

Copy Pasting is not really a punishment!

Bart Simpson

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Of Change, Temperament and Other manipulations

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Of interpretations, reality and other cracks in human communication

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Of letting go, gravity and other suicidal attepmts

Saturday, April 7, 2012

Of internet connection, blog posting and other members of the Simpson Family