Of letting go, gravity and other suicidal attepmts

I never completely understood the whole “let go” concept! People use it as a solution to every uncomfortable situation. I understand its use when one is faced with fear of doing something for the first time or any kind of reservation for that matter. I understand and practice it when it comes to never ceasing rumble of the same thought over and over again.  Hell, I recommend it. Rumble can make you go insane. I support the letting go of attachment to things, which is the one of the bases of Four Noble Truths in Buddhism.  Letting go is a Noble thing to do in order for one to reach a peaceful mind.  And that is, we must agree, something everybody wants.  But I have a hard time accepting it when it comes to situations that need some attention. When there are resolutions to be made and discussions to be had in order to come to an understanding of the given situation. And there is precisely where people usually use its powerful idea and my concerns begin.

I wonder how many times this philosophy is being used to avoid dealing with things, to take an honest look on the situation. How many times do we try to shut our eyes not to see the reality, not to accept the possibility that it actually sucks. Or that nothing good can come out of it.  No matter how true it is, that knowing the future is not in our hands, there is inevitable fact of intuition, based on past experiences, that patiently and persistently whispers to our ears we should deal with it and then actually let it go. Not the thinking about it, but the situation altogether. We only apply the “let go” when it comes to thinking and building up thought patterns that cause emotional states like fear, doubt, concern, shame and regret. What if we applied it to the situation per se! What about letting go of the action; letting go of the need to be in it? To let hope go.

Live in the moment. Go along with it. Enjoy the situation. Cease the day. Carpe diem! They all became the “let go” philosophy. No attachment no concerns, no worries about the future all that matters is here and now. And here and now is beautiful, just the way it is. You know I am all about this.  I truly believe in that. I also see, that by not ceasing this very moment, we deprive ourselves from experiencing the possibilities and magic of this very instant we find ourselves in. I have a friend that constantly uses phrase: Just drop it, which is a special kind of Let Go.  I believe he has a poor understanding of that phrase. Just drop it sounds hostile. It sounds defensive and evasive.  It belittles the importance of one´s need to discuss, so that one can understand better. Just drop it is a Darth Vader of “let go”. The dark side of it. It leaves one in a state of self doubt and honestly, it made me feel stupid. But this is how people are right now. We take on bits and pieces of new age philosophies, making a conglomerate that justifies our way of living and we feel like we´ve changed, where in fact, we just sugarcoated it staying precisely the same way as we are, but with a great philosophy to explain when needed. And, your God, do we explain how great we are! We say, Let it go! We mean Let me be! Just enjoy (what we have).

We say Attachment is bad. Buda said it. Psychologists say it all the time. But hey, they use the “little me inside” phrase too. Show me that little me inside and I will show you yours. And it occurred to me, we use the Let go philosophy in attachment segment only. Like attachment is bad. With no attachment there is no molecule, there would be only atoms. Without attachment no relationship is possible. There would be no Love without attachment. It is not Attachment that is the problem; it is the uncontrolable emotion and projection that come along with it. But who am I to talk about that. I am the same as everyone else.

So I am asking myself right now. How does Letting go feel like? When is it justified and how far can we go in letting go of things until it makes us Emotional Neanderthals? So I turn to my God, Nature and its way of showing the natural way of how things are. And it got me thinking about gravity.

You see, gravity is the most elusive force of Nature. We are all experiencing it all the time, yet we fail to find that particle, the Graviton that makes whole gravitational field tangible. All we know is it must be there somewhere. However, there is a huge misconception of gravitational force we accept as Reality. One can blame it on how nature´s law appears when watching an apple falling from a tree. This is how supposedly Isaac Newton found it, but Einstein proved it is all wrong.

Brian Greene in his book The fabric of the cosmos writes: Since gravity and acceleration are equivalent, if you feel gravity's influence, you must be accelerating. Einstein argued that only those observers who feel no force at all-including the force of gravity-are justified in declaring that they are not accelerating. Such force-free observers provide the true reference points for discussing motion, and it's this recognition that requires a major turnabout in the way we usually think about such things.

That means. Acceleration and gravity are the same. When you feel the influence of gravity, then you must be accelerating. When we sit, we accelerate. We feel the pressure of the chair on our body. When we stand, we accelerate, too. When we are not moving, we actually accelerate. You, right now, accelerate. The true reference to who is moving is an object that experiences no force made upon him. So to say, if a man jumps from his window, it is not him who accelerates downwards, but the world upwards. He experiences no force whatsoever, so a freefall is actually being still. And a free fall is true letting go. So how can we know what letting go feels like, when all we do is accelerate? We are born to the world that accelerates, that uses the force to seemingly stay still. This is all we know. It is not in our Nature to Let go, but it is an ability we can learn. To me, then, letting go is not stop dealing with things, it is not stop worrying or thinking about where this might lead me to. It is figuratively jumping through the window and letting world, Life meet you. Thoughts will be born, feelings will be risen, interpretations made, hopes built, dreams found, expectations created, that is all inevitable. And all that feels like accelerating, using the huge amount of force to stay put.  It feels like working against the natural course of things. What one can do is to not put much value on that.

Like Perls, the guy who found the gestalt therapy, said: If we meet, we can have a great time together. If not, well, that´s how it is.

So, if you see me one day flying past your window, do not be worried. It is not me who is falling; it is you who is going up. Me, I am letting go and experience stillness for the first time in my life. The problem is, world will undeniably hit me. Somehow, letting go seems like a bad choice right now!?

And there is that!