I usually
get in trouble when I talk to people about change, especially when the talk is
about how people have changed. See, I do not believe it is possible for a
person to change at all. Not even a single bit, at least not there where it
matters. Sure, one can have a life changing experience or deep insights, but that does not necessary mean
he has changed along with it, too. His life has, the circumstances have, he knows something more about himself, so he
needs to adjust and accumulate new behavioral patterns. Learn and adopt;
recognize and control; experience and manage. This is how it works. So, there
is no sugar coating the subject with me, when my friend tells me she is getting
back with her ex-boyfriend, because he supposedly has changed.
